Self Defense And Psychology

Little do we realize just how much psychology plays into self defense. When we think in terms of self-defense, we often think in terms of physical self defense. There are, however, also psychological self-defense techniques that you can use to protect yourself.

When hostage negotiators work with criminals who take hostages, all of the dialogue that takes place on the part of the negotiator has a psychological impact. You can use these same techniques when you find yourself in a situation that calls for self defense.

First, make eye contact. When you look people in the eye, they are less likely to attack you. Attackers prefer those who are not looking at them - those who can be surprised and they also prefer to attack people who cannot possibly identify them later on.

If you feel like someone is following you or watching you, smile and wave at someone else who appears trustworthy. Walk up to that person and start talking to them. It is okay to let them know that you felt you were in danger. Most people, believe it or not, are essentially good, and will do what they can to help you get out of a bad situation.

Talk to your attacker. Let them know that you are a real human being. You have to gauge the situation, and the person, for yourself, as each attack, and each attacker is different. You may easily determine that screaming and fighting will scare your attacker off. Then again, you may determine that talking calmly to your attacker, in a nonthreatening manner, is more efficient.

In most cases, an attacker has a reason to attack. He plans to gain something from it. As long as what he wants does not involve you personally, try to give him what he wants as quickly as possible, as far away from you as possible. For example, if the attacker wants your wallet, hand it to him, or toss it away from you. If he wants your car, toss your keys away from you.

Finally, never allow yourself to look the part of a victim. If you look vulnerable, you are. Walk with your head held up, and take in your surroundings. Always look like you have a specific destination in mind. Use positive body language that says that you are in control of your person, as well as the situations around you.

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